A couple of days ago, I heard about the death of a young woman I had known She died during childbirth. The baby survived. She was a lovely person and even though we were not close friends, her death struck me so hard. The fact that she was so young, so full of life and energy, just saddens me more and makes me shocked. It took me some time to gather my thoughts.
I or any of people I know could have been in her place. And to any of us death can happen any time. You could die today, on your way to work, in your sleep, in an accident. Can we embrace the permanence of death? Can we live each day as if it were our last? Can we relate to one another as if there were no tomorrow?
The truth is, nothing can live forever. Everyone and everything will die in time. Death is a natural part of life. However, no matter that we all know it, the shock when receiving the news about the death of someone you knew is inevitable. It seems only in those moments we start reflecting on how important every moment of our life is.
Life is definitely a gift. Every day is a gift. Start paying attention to all the beauty around you. There’s a lot to be grateful for. Death just reminds us that life is precious, temporary and not to be taken for granted. While I was driving my motor bike today, I was looking around and paying more attention to all those beautiful frangipani trees along the road. I was petting my dogs longer and during my surf session I was smiling when fish jumped out of the water. I reminded myself that I should do that more often, smiling, laughing, smelling flowers, petting dogs, saying ‘thank you’.
You are not your social media profile and your CV. Maybe you are too focused on impressing people with your physical appearance, your success and career accomplishments, but the fact is what people remember about you is how you made them feel. Therefore, be present in your relationships, don’t forget that interaction is far more important than social media. Our conversations in person are much more powerful than those online, and be your best self.
Don’t forget that life happens in the present moment. Don’t think too much about the past and worry about the future. Live today and every day to its fullest. As Seneca said: “Begin at once to live and count each separate day as a separate life.”
And even when you lose someone be grateful that you knew that person and remember those wonderful moments you spent together. They will stay in your memory forever.
And no matter that people nowadays are too much focused on success, achievements, money, physical beauty, don’t forget that love is the ultimate value and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Love is what matters and what is remembered. Show the people you care about that you appreciate them. Don’t be afraid to show people how you really feel. Surround yourself with people that make you happy and you make them happy in return. Keep showing your love and loving the people who stand by your side.
“Life has taught me that nothing can separate you from the people that you love..not even death..and people that love you never really leave you either. As long as you keep them alive in your memories they will carry on watching you over you from that place above long after they’ve left this material world! Life might not be eternal but love is…” -Ravi Buldawo